Over the years I have heard people say that Christians are just mean-spirited and judgmental people who only care about themselves. I would say this claim is both true and false.
I had a conversation with a woman one time who said that the reason she doesn't go to church is because she was immediately judged because of her tattoos and dress. She doesn't feel that the church even cares for her (she's not part of the club) and that church is irrelevant to her life. "Why would I go to a place that offers no hope for my life and makes me feel worthless?"
Church should be a place of broken and fallen people who have now been called into a new way of life. The way of Jesus. The problem is that, many times, people mistake "going to church" with a new way of life. Jesus way of life calls us to reach out and love those who are marginalized, broken-hearted, and in need of grace. That is the life Jesus has called me to live. That is the life that I want to live, but be patient with me as I am a work in progress.